7. Ask for what you want.

Asking for what I want is my ‘anti-resentment’ tool and here’s how it works:  If I ask for what I want, everything is out in the open and I’ll have no hidden agendas or covert contracts.  With everything out in the open, I’m not expecting the people in my world to fulfill my unexpressed wants, thus avoiding my resentment when they’re not granted.

It’s important to note that if I ask for what I want, the answer I receive could be ‘no’, ‘not now’, or even ‘not ever.’  Asking for what I want is a request to another person for something, it’s not a demand.  The difference between a request and a demand is that with a request ‘no’ is a perfectly acceptable answer.